Hello sweet peas
So often I hear girls around me (because I go to a girls only school) judging themselves so casually, and worrying so much about having like one pimple! And I’m just standing there like ‘I actually like how I look guys, but ok keep slandering yourself” not.
Honestly, the minute someone says “oh you look good, but I don’t like that photo because I look fat” and its just like, where’s the nearest bridge? Jokes! But seriously, why do teenagers find it necessary to lower themselves?
It worries me so much that girls find that they need to put themselves down. I hate hearing people say “oh he won’t like me because I’m fat/pimply/not good enough for him”.
Can I just say that any guy or girl worth it is not going to give a stuff how you look. In fact (and I am taking this from girls and guys I have talked to) confidence is what most people are attracted to. And if you’re worrying about your pimples (when you have one!) or that you’re fat (when in fact you’re actually a healthy weight, and look good!) this really is going to lower this confidence.
confidence isn’t always being able to get up in front of a whole lot of people and sing or act, but instead true confidence is having a sense of self-worth and self-love.
So how do you do this?
- When you look in the mirror instead of looking at what you don’t like, look at what you do like. Look at it and say “I am beautiful because no one else has quite the same (insert feature) as me, and I am myself” or some other positive thing that will sound ridiculous but actually works. For me I love my brown eyes so I always look at them and think “aren’t I lucky to have such brown eyes?” (I’m feeling super good right now 😉 )
- Don’t get into negative conversations about how you look. If someone starts going on about how they hate how they look change the conversation or leave. No good friend will subject you to this if you don’t want to hear it. Sometimes even the best people have these conversations, but tell them you don’t want this conversation, and they should respect that and maybe realise that they actually don’t hate how they look.
- Take and give compliments. one of the most amazing ways to make yourself feel good is to give someone else a compliment. Sometimes when I tell someone they look beautiful they tell me its weird, but why is it weird? If someone tells me I am beautiful I am going to feel so good. you should tell your friends they look good, or they are good at something <3 Plus it prepares you for when someone you have a crush on gives you a compliment. <3
- Don’t compare yourself to others. Trying to look like someone else is an unrealistic objective, and is only going to end in tears. Be yourself. No one has been blessed to look like you, and remember that. No one else gets to be you, so make it damn worth it 😉
Of course I will finish with my favourite quote 😉 <3
Be yourself, because those that care don’t matter, and those that matter don’t care
and of course:
Be yourself. Everyone else is taken <3
I hope you enjoyed but also took something away from todays post 🙂 I think its so important that you know this, and that you are happy being yourself 🙂 Most people don’t work out not to give a stuff about what other people think until they are quite a bit older, so here’s a head start!
I would love to hear your thoughts down below 🙂
I hope you all have a good day, and remember your beauty, your worth in this world 🙂
Lui xx <3 <3