Confidence – The Most Attractive Quality?

Confidence – The Most Attractive Quality?

Hello sweet peas πŸ˜€

Time and time again people have asked the question what it is that attracts one person to another – be that friends, or a boyfriend, or girlfriend. And many times I have been told it is confidence. Usually at this point a lot of people groan and say “really?!?!” because they are convinced that this is completely unachievable for them. But I can tell you right now that we are all capable of expressing confidence in our own special ways πŸ™‚

It’s really easy to put ourselves down and tell ourselves that we aren’t confident, which is kind of a never ending loop. If you tell yourself you can’t be confident you won’t. One really good piece of advice I have been given is “fake it ’til you make it”, and to be honest it is kind of true, and surprisingly useful! πŸ˜‰ Sometimes you have to pretend you are confident, and you will act accordingly, until one day you no longer have to even think about it. πŸ™‚

My other piece of advice is simply, just believe in yourself. Sometimes I have found myself in group situations *cough* production *cough* where I have felt like the “quiet” or “shy” member of the group, or I have thought that the peopleΒ I was hanging out with were too popular to hang out with me. BS, at its finest πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜€ This is so not true, I can tell you now. Whenever I think this I tell myself that those girls are lucky to be hanging out with me, and that I am most definitely their equal, and that I don’t have to be the shy member of the group.

Which is my final piece of advice. My most famous saying (I think?) is “there is no time like the present”. Basically if you want to change something, don’t wait for tomorrow, do it now! I watched this interview with Shawn Mendes ( <3 <3 ) where he said ‘if you wait until you’re ready, you’ll never do it”. This is so true. Sometimes you kind of need to be ready (like swimming – please learn first!!), but sometimes you just have to take the bull by the horns and just go for something πŸ˜‰ πŸ™‚ (another famous Lui saying)

I really hope that I have opened your eyes a little bit more to your own self-worth, and made you think a bit πŸ™‚ Now, next time you are chatting to your crush you can feel a bit more confident about yourself, and know that you are worthy of them, and if they don’t fancy you its their loss πŸ™‚ or when you deliver a speech know that this speech is good πŸ˜‰ next time you do a performance, or even you are just chatting with a group of people from school, know that you are an equal and you have a worth πŸ™‚ And then you will be confident πŸ™‚

I would love to hear your thoughts and tips for this, as always πŸ™‚ If you want to read another of these types of posts, you can read my Be Yourself post, or look under my Positivity, Chatting,Β and Tips part of my blog πŸ™‚

I hope you are all having a great day, and can achieve a healthy sense of self-worth πŸ™‚

Lui xx


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  1. January 26, 2017 / 11:18 am

    Love this post Lui!! It’s so true; I’ve often felt like that shy or the “outcast” of the group of friends that I had last year. The truth is, those “friends” weren’t really true friends. To be completely honest, they were some of the meanest and most selfish people that I have met in my life, and made me feel horrible for being myself; the great thing about it is that I learned. I learned from those mistakes and embraced, loved, and valued myself for who I was, not because I was some fake persona those fake friends had created for me. I guess you could say I found my own voice to speak up. I have a great real group of friends now who never judge me, because they’re all unique and quirky just like me. I seriously love this post; truly inspirational and I love that you added in your experience. I relate πŸ™‚ <3 <3

    Much love!!


  2. January 26, 2017 / 11:25 am

    omg thank you so much for sharing this!! and I can completely relate – I had some really awful “friends” last year who used to put me down, but when I stood up for myself, my true friends stood by me and I realised who the real friends were πŸ™‚ I am so glad that you were able to learn from your experience, and learn to love yourself, because it is definitely something too many people don’t do!! thank you so much!! πŸ™‚ <3 xx

  3. January 26, 2017 / 11:29 am

    Aw, it’s no problem at all!! πŸ™‚ I feel like a lot of us have experiences like these that we learn from, especially those fake friends πŸ˜› . Everyone should learn to love and embrace themselves; with post’s like yours, I’m sure many will open up to doing so <3 <3 <3

  4. January 26, 2017 / 11:30 am

    aw thank you πŸ™‚ <3 and yes so true! also, I just read ur post about feminism!! you go girl!! that was amazing!! (anyone reading this, go and read that post!!!) <3 <3 xx

  5. January 26, 2017 / 11:31 am

    Wow I really loved this blogpost Lui! I know what you meant when you say you felt like the shy and quite member of the group. I have felt like in more than one occasion. We were like a trio but I always felt I didn’t fit in. What you said really did open my eyes. Thank you! 😘❀️

  6. January 26, 2017 / 11:32 am

    aw thank you!! and I am so happy to hear my post has done something πŸ™‚ and I can completely relate πŸ™‚ <3

  7. January 26, 2017 / 11:34 am

    Aww, thank you so much, Lui!! Just saw and replied to that comment on that post. Really means a lot πŸ˜€ <3 <3

  8. January 26, 2017 / 4:44 pm

    that’s alright πŸ™‚ <3

  9. January 27, 2017 / 5:19 am

    Lui this post was so amazing! You are absolutely right! I often feel like I’m the “least popular” in a group I hang out with. I haven’t got a lot of confidence but this post was so motivational and I hope I can improve my confidence! πŸ˜‰ Thanks so much for your post! I’m sure I’m not the only one that thinks this post was so amazing and helpful! (Is that grammatical right?Oh well it’s been a long day!πŸ˜‰ ) Thanks again!❀️ xxxxx

  10. January 27, 2017 / 5:32 am

    Love all of your inspirational posts! I think confidence is such an atracting thing, I don’t know if the most but it really makes the difference

  11. January 27, 2017 / 6:43 am

    I loved when you said, “But I can tell you right now that we are all capable of expressing confidence in our own special ways” It’s so true, we all have it in us one way or another. I absolutely adore your positivism and how you share and spread the messages through your post. You are something special Lui!!

    xo, JJ

  12. January 27, 2017 / 11:35 am

    Love this post and so true!!

  13. January 28, 2017 / 4:17 pm

    aw thank you so much Rosie!! and I know how u feel!!! I really hope u do start to feel more confident – a lot comes as we get older too πŸ™‚ haha and yes it is grammatically correct haha πŸ˜€ <3 <3 <3

  14. January 28, 2017 / 4:17 pm

    aw thank you!! yes I totally agree – its hard to pick one haha! πŸ˜‰ <3

  15. January 28, 2017 / 4:19 pm

    aw thank you so so so so much!!!! πŸ™‚ πŸ˜€ <3 <3 and yes I totally agree!!! πŸ™‚ thank you so much!!! <3 <3 <3 xx

  16. January 28, 2017 / 4:19 pm

    aw thank you!! πŸ™‚ <3

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  18. January 28, 2017 / 8:47 pm

    Yes you are so right! (and yesss got it right!πŸ˜‰)

  19. January 29, 2017 / 6:37 am

    Great post! Thanks for sharing

  20. January 29, 2017 / 6:19 pm

    thanks!! πŸ™‚ thanks for commetning πŸ™‚

  21. January 29, 2017 / 6:20 pm

    hahahaha πŸ˜€ <3

  22. January 30, 2017 / 5:12 am

    Honestly Lui you are such a good writer you should try out my writing contest!! Update me on what you think about our collab!!!

  23. January 30, 2017 / 9:20 am

    aw thank you so much πŸ™‚ what does ur writing contest involve? πŸ™‚ <3 and will do!! πŸ™‚ <3

  24. January 30, 2017 / 9:21 am

    aw thank you!!! i will try and do this when i can πŸ™‚ <3 xx

  25. January 31, 2017 / 12:28 pm

    thanks!! πŸ™‚ <3

  26. February 16, 2017 / 5:59 am

    Thank you for sharing 😊 I will try my best to do it!

  27. February 25, 2017 / 10:28 am

    that’s alright – best of luck! πŸ™‚ <3

  28. April 4, 2017 / 11:05 pm

    So true!!! I was in fact the “shy” one in my group… But i realized that i could be confident too. This post just strengthened my resolution. Thank you for such an amazing post!!

  29. April 10, 2017 / 5:48 pm

    aw I am really glad to hear that – and I know what u mean! πŸ™‚ I really hope that u find that u start to feel more confident being who u r πŸ™‚ <3 xx

  30. April 10, 2017 / 8:29 pm

    Yeah. Thank you! I hope the same for you too..

  31. April 16, 2017 / 9:24 am

    thank you! πŸ™‚ <3

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