As mentioned on my Instagram (@luimaria09) I hope you all had a great Valentines day last Thursday, celebrating with a special someone or a friend (or friends!!). For me this was Galentines inspired by Parks and Recreation’s Leslie Knope, which was amazing!!
So often around Valentines day it’s easy enough for those of us that are single to go on and on about how lonely we are on Valentines day because we’re single, and hopefully we’ll be lucky enough to not spend it alone next year. Now, I’m not going to rain on your goals parade, but it gets a bit old (to me) all this talk of “loneliness” and “luckiness”, as if it’s as simple as it’s bad to be single and an absolute rightness to be in a relationship. By all means, if you’re in a respectful, kind and loving relationship, that should 100% be celebrated!! But…
Let’s stop with the single shaming. Especially, from said singles. Let’s not bash our own side.
Being single is not synonymous with being lonely, and whilst those two can occur together, being single does not and should not denote the special relationships you do have in your life!! Your friends, your BFF, your parents, siblings, family, colleagues, class mates, and that one friendly Subway worker. A romantic relationship is only one sort of relationship, and though it’s awesome to experience all the positives of one, there is so much to be treasured in your other relationships too!
Being single, like most things, is only temporary. Unless we’ve made an active decision to remain single, we generally end up stumbling into something that makes our bellies fill with butterflies at a random moment in time. Your turn will come, trust me, and it’s no race!! Quite frankly being single can be a preferable place to be at. You can do what you want, when you want, within reason. Things are simpler, cheaper. Don’t believe for a second that the single life ain’t a good one. And honestly we were all single once!! We can do it again! We are able to look forward to the impending future relationship(s) to come, the ones we don’t even know yet, which is pretty bloody exciting.
If any of you have felt that irrevocable sense of loneliness and permanency of being single, I can guarenteed you that it won’t always be that way. I have those moments, but overall I’m pretty content where I am. I get to look forward to the next belly flutter, the next late night messages, and constant thoughts. But I’m quite happy keeping it in front of me, not here right now. It takes time to become content and happy with it, but it is achievable, I promise.
I hope I have inspired you to reconsider your mindset if you are single, and if you aren’t I wish you all the best in your relationship!
Happy Valentines day everyone, and much love. I’d love to hear your thoughts, your stories, and what you celebrated on Valentines day. 💕